TRAUMA AND CHILDHOOD WOUNDS

"Just because you can’t see the scar, doesn’t mean the wound isn’t there."

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If you believe you may be suffering from trauma, we strongly encourage you to speak with a qualified professional - a therapist, psychologist, or just your doctor. Trauma is complex and deeply personal, and no online article can replace the care and guidance of a trained expert.
What you are told in those professional settings always takes precedence over the information on this page. We’re not here to diagnose or fix - just to offer insight, reassurance, and a starting point.

WHY THIS MATTERS

Trauma isn’t always dramatic. It’s not always violence, abandonment, or obvious abuse.

Sometimes, it’s a thousand moments where you felt ignored, unloved, shamed, or forced to grow up too fast. Childhood wounds have a nasty way of showing up later - in how we trust, how we react, how we numb ourselves, and how we sabotage things we actually want.

This page isn’t here to diagnose you.

It’s here to say: if something doesn’t feel right, you’re not overthinking it.

And you’re not weak for wanting answers.

WHAT YOU'LL FIND ON THIS PAGE

WHAT TRAUMA REALLY MEANS

Trauma isn’t just about what happened. It’s about what happened inside you.

It’s the emotional impact of something that overwhelmed your ability to cope or made you feel unsafe - physically or emotionally. That could be anything from neglect, constant criticism, emotional coldness, to chaotic or unsafe home environments.

Types of trauma men often overlook:

SIGNS YOU MIGHT BE CARRYING CHILDHOOD WOUNDS

Many men minimise their experiences, especially if there was no clear "event."

But these subtle signs often point to unresolved trauma:
If these hit close to home, it doesn’t mean you’re broken - it means your body and mind are protecting you the best way they know how.

HOW IT SHOWS UP IN ADULT LIFE

Unhealed wounds have a habit of leaking out.

They show up in relationships - in the way you push people away before they can hurt you, or cling tightly for fear of being abandoned.

They show up in work - in your drive for success, perfectionism, or fear of being exposed as a fraud.

They show up in coping - through drinking, porn, overworking, or shutting down altogether.

And they show up in silence - in the voice that tells you “don’t talk about this,” or “you should be over this by now.”

FIRST STEPS TOWARDS HEALING

You don’t need to unpack it all at once. But here are a few ways to begin:

1. NAME IT

Give the feeling a name. Guilt. Shame. Loneliness. Rage. Whatever it is - name it so it doesn’t own you.

2. know it's not your fault

You didn’t choose the circumstances that shaped you. But you can choose what you do next.

3. START TALKING

To a therapist. A support group. A mate who listens without judgement. Talking gives pain somewhere to go.

4. LEARN TO FEEL AGAIN

If you’ve been emotionally numb for years, even basic feelings might be overwhelming. That’s okay. Start small.

5. FOCUS ON SAFETY AND SELF-TRUST

Healing isn’t about reliving the past - it’s about feeling safe in the present. Practice routines, rituals, and relationships that ground you.
These books offer a deeper dive into trauma and recovery:
Front cover for 'The Body Keeps the Score' by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Here are some powerful, trustworthy videos that break things down further:
You are not alone, and you don’t have to carry this forever.
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FINAL WORDS

If any part of this page hit something in you - take it seriously.

You’re not being dramatic. You’re not weak. And you’re certainly not alone.

There’s no timeline for healing, and no shame in needing help.

If anything, facing your past is one of the strongest things a man can do.

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